Claremont McKenna Student: Sometimes Yes Means No
This student says ‘yes means yes’ isn’t enough. I suspect nothing will ever be enough for the rape culture crowd.
Katherine Timpf of National Review has the story.
Student Op-Ed: ‘Yes Means Yes’ Is Not Enough Because Sometimes ‘Yes Means No’
When it comes to consent, it’s not enough to teach that “no means no” or even that only “yes means yes” – because sometimes “yes” can actually mean “no.” At least that’s the point of view expressed in an op-ed written by Jordan Bosiljevac for Claremont McKenna College’s student newspaper, The Forum.
In the piece, Bosiljevac explains that she and her friends even came up with a phrase to describe someone having sex with you who you didn’t want to have sex with even though you told him that you did, which they apparently consider a form of rape:
“We coined the term ‘raped by rape culture’ to describe what it was like to say yes, coerced by the culture that had raised us and the systems of power that worked on us, and to still want ‘no,’” she writes in the April 30 article, titled “Why Yes Can Mean No.”
Bosiljevac writes that she’s been dealing with the oppression of this culture her whole life — beginning with having to endure relatives kissing her cheeks “even as I winced and turned away” — and that it continues to influence her sexual decision-making abilities, almost to the point where she doesn’t seem to think she really has any ability to make those decisions at all.
She describes one incident in particular in which she had hooked up with a guy who had asked her outright if she was okay with what was happening and she had told him “yes” – explaining that even though she had said “yes,” she had really meant “no,” and it wasn’t really entirely her fault that she couldn’t just say what she wanted:
“Sometimes, for me, there was obligation from already having gone back to someone’s room, not wanting to ruin a good friendship, loneliness, worry that no one else would ever be interested, a fear that if I did say no, they might not stop, the influence of alcohol, and an understanding that hookups are ‘supposed’ to be fun,” she writes.
Student Op-Ed: ‘Yes Means Yes’ Is Not Enough Because Sometimes ‘Yes Means No’ (National Review)
Comments
Few things of note:
1) The original story has closed the comments. The first few were fully in support of this idiocy, but once people arrived and started debunking her illogic and showing she had a double standards … it was time to shut down the comments (23 total)
2) I find it interesting that on this very site that this story precedes one on the dearth of men in college.
3) As always, once this hits a few gals in college, the news will be “I wouldn’t screw him, so he falsely accused me” and a totally different tone will emerge in reporting – but ONLY when women are accused.
4) Despite the inevitibility of #3 the SJW’s will **NEVER** give up their ideology just because some of the “wrong people” get destroyed. Their careers, livlihood, and pride will never allow them to admit to their errors.