Prager University’s latest course asks the question: “What Did Your Parents Most Want You to Be?”

When parents boast about their children with other people, what do most say first? Is it how nice they are to strangers? Or how much volunteering they did last year? Usually not.

More often, they talk about their good grades in school, or the prestigious college they went to, or the much sought after summer internship they are on. But this is backwards. Acts of kindness are what parents should talk about with others, and what they should really praise their kids for.

According to Rabbi Joseph Telushkin, the best way to make a better world is to praise people for what counts–goodness.